Boring is one word that would NOT describe my marriage. My wife and I really do enjoy each other. We don’t have the “perfect” marriage but we do work at it. We’re best friends who strive towards oneness.
This past week I posted about a little project we did recently- a tournament to select, “our song.” The best part of the activity wasn’t really finding the right song- it was collaborating with my wife. We selected a total of 16 songs (8 each) and we made a date and set the bracket. As we went through each matchup discussing why or why not a song should advance in the tournament, we were able to focus on what makes our relationship special. Plus, we had to be loving and open to each other’s song choices. This was definitely a true test of sacrificial love and open communication. Creative things like this help bring a little spark to our relationship. It was fun!
How about your relationship? Is it boring? Is it mediocre? Is it lukewarm? If so, why? It doesn’t have to be. There’s no one like you and no marriage like yours. You can have the relationship you always wanted if you both put forth the effort.
I want to stay alert of the potential dangers to my marriage. There are many obvious things to lookout for but we often forget complacency. We spend so much time and energy on other things- even important things- and our marriage is taken for granted and our spouse gets leftovers. It’s a challenge- we know- we’ve been guilty of this too. But the truth is complacency is a silent relationship killer. Fight it- and fight for your marriage! Our purpose in marriage is oneness. God, your matchmaker, brought you two together to bring glory to him. You do that by loving Him and each other and putting your spouse’s needs ahead of your own. It’s a beautiful, mutual submission.
One in two marriages fail. Please don’t let it be yours. It’s worth fighting for.
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